Well my first love and my first kiss are two separate instances and two different people. Many people have little puppy loves and cute kisses when they are kids, those pecks on the lips and that 8 year old boy you think is the neatest. So I'll go into the "serious" ones Haha, the first french kiss and first real love.
My first french kiss was when I was about 14 years old. I won't say his name because his sisters are my FB friends and they might read this, haha! But if they are reading this they'll probably know who I'm talking about. He was also my first "real" boyfriend. He wasn't my first love, just a kid I was infatuated with and really liked. After the first kiss, there was a lot of making out after that, like everywhere, even in the back of his church, haha! My BFF will probably recall this if she's reading this. We got caught making out with our boyfriends by her boyfriend's dad, who happened to be the Pasteur of the church, at an evening church event in one of the back rooms....wow, that was an experience *giggle* I laugh every time I remember it. Eventually I found out the kid was messing with some girl at another school because she was "giving it up" to him, which I refused to do. I broke it off with him and eventually moved on, I had a big Quinceanera to plan, so it didn't take long, LOL.
I've had some very strong infatuations throughout my life, the kind where you can't stop thinking about that person and you just want to be where ever they happen to be just so you can have some time talking to them. I would say I've had at least 3 or 4 of those, including in Jr. High School and College. Of course as you get older those infatuations get a little more serious because our desire to find a compatible mate gets much stronger. Not as in psychopath I'm going to call you every day and hang up kind of serious, lol. It's more like, if I could just get this person to see that we could really have something there if he'd just focus on me for a minute and look my way for more than 'a friend', kinda serious. But, sometimes those are just not meant to be at that moment, and in the end you realize that's not love, just a world of "possibilities" in possible life mates.
But then you realize one day that no matter how much you desired for that guy to look your way in a more serous way, you were never truly open to love at that point, so even if he had, nothing may have come of it anyway. Not until one day you meet a person and you get this feeling in your heart and pulsating through your whole being that completely knocks you on your ass, and you just never saw coming. You get hit by this love that completely changes you as a person without your knowledge or permission. It just happens and takes over you. It's so strong it just consumes you and your whole world. This is when you know it's true love for you, when you care more about this person than you ever did for yourself. And their happiness makes you even more happy in return. That first love of mine turned out to be the man I would eventually marry. Yep, the one and only true love I've ever had.
But love is much more complicated than that, and as time passes and life happens, the love "obsession" eventually settles down and reality starts to set in. The idea of soul mates and marrying your best friend is a warm concept that is sold to us every day by movies and the entertainment industry. But it's never quite that clear cut. We don't always marry our soul mates, our soul mates are not always our best friends, and our best friends are not always the people we marry. I believe a person can have multiple soul mates and multiple best friends, whether they be of the same sex or opposite sex, and that's not always the person you chose as your life mate. You follow? Yea, it's complicated LOL.
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